How do you learn from Failures??
The story which I am going to tell you is about me only. I will try to let you know all those things which I went through in my life.
I have always been a careless guy not putting efforts in any of my work, be it my academics, job, relationship etc. And this carelessness has brought me to a stage I regret. But did I learn anything or going the same way?? Well I certainly have an answer.
After I passed out my engineering, sorry I didn’t tell you that I am a civil engineer. I always wanted to serve in government department, it didn’t come from me but the society from which I belong to. Private job is like unemployment only, which shows how mentally ill we are and we do not even try to explore the other side. So lets continue my story.
I, like many students went to New Delhi for my coaching classes and stayed there for a year. The only thing which I didn’t do was my self study and that is enough for your bright future. Hope you understand what I meant.
I used to hangout with my friends, who were similar to me as they also had no interest in doing study neither in attending regular classes. But at that time I had no idea about my actions, where it will lead me in life. The dynamic life of Delhi was attracting me like unlike poles of magnet.
But I was enjoying it to the fullest. Now exam was near and I thought to give some time to my studies too, still without any interest. I sat on my study chair and started going through the subjects. 2 months left for the exam but 15 subjects were there . Since my concepts were weak not because I was weak, just because of my inconsistency in attending lectures. But still I tried to cover some of them but the competition which I was a part of, needed everything, not something. Now, it was my exam day. Still I was hoping to clear it like everyone does but we should be aware of one thing, how much efforts you have given to get something done.
I gave my exam and I knew about the result but still I was hoping to get selected like everyone does, again. Results were out and it was not in my favor as I knew it but our hope never dies. But still I didn’t learn anything from this setback and continued my life in the same way as I was living and took things casually. Now the moment arrived which shattered me completely, my father went through heart attack, and by god’s grace he survived. But the moment we received that call from the hospital about father’s heart attack, My mother broke down at that moment and I tried to control myself so as to prevent the situation from becoming worse. At that moment I understood one thing, when everything goes in the right direction, importance of our near and dear is not realized by us.
My father , being a police officer, faced every kind of pressure be it a political, public, seniors or his personal pressure but he never shared with us and always made us feel that everything is alright and we never realized the pain which he was going through. And I was enjoying my life without taking care of my studies, my future, aspirations etc. But now, after going through all this, failure in exam, family problem, I started working on my careless attitude which was acting as a barrier between me and my future goals. I started my preparation and this time it was not just a formality. I consistently worked upon it and finally cleared my Railway examination as a civil engineer.
Everyone has got that endurance in them but the problem is, are we using it or just going with the flow. Why do we start only after falling, not before that?
Some of us don’t wait for failures, we just start and only come to halt after achieving something. But most of us learn from failures, As I did.
But we are not in the 3rd category, those who don’t even learn from the failures they face, we should never be in that category because that will show us failures only, not the self realization of improving it.
Everyone has different motivation of achieving something in their life and that derives them to continue to work on that. Identify your strength or learn from failures, but just do it. You can do anything, it might make you laugh because this is very common line. But this is true, the more we make ourselves inferior, the more we become.